Power Relations and Children

Colleen Cluff

In the first chapter of the Book of Mormon, Nephi declares to the world that he has been born of goodly parents. I too can say this statement for myself. I was blessed enough to be born into a home where I knew and still know that my parents love me. They’ve shown this is a variety of ways. Through words, deeds, work, and many more things. 

In the talk by Richard B Miller, Who is the Boss? Power Relationships in Families, he talks about how, what, and when to have control in parenting. Having control can actually show children that you love and care for them. Miller quotes Dr. Rosemond who says–

“Give your children regular, daily doses of Vitamin N. This vital nutrient consists simply of the most character-building two-letter word in the English language––‘’No’ . . . Unfortunately, many, if not most, of today’s children suffer from Vitamin N deficiency. They have been over-indulged by well-meaning parents who have given them far too much of what they want and far too little of what they truly need.” (Miller, 2008, par. 5)

I think lots of parents today want to be a friend before a parent to their children. They have good intentions in wanting their kids to be happy in everything they do, so they always say yes. But from what Miller says, this is actually a lack of care. Saying yes to everything is laziness. Saying no to certain things teachings, work, understanding, discipline, and love. 

One of the biggest things I think I learned from my dad was to be a hard worker. This wouldn’t have come if he always gave me what I wanted or never pushed me harder than I thought I could take it. My dad has told me my whole life that all good things come from hard work. Taking or getting the easy way out won’t benefit us in the long run. We came to this earth to learn, grow, be challenged, and labor diligently. So, say no to your kids sometimes. Teach them to try and work. Show them that you do the same. In doing this, I believe we will be showing more love to our kids and set them up for a brighter and happier future.